Yoni
massage

The aim for Yoni massage is to create a space for the woman to relax, to be excited and to enjoy her Yoni.
Her partner, a man or a woman will enjoy giving her massage and be part of a special moment for the receiver.

Yoni massage can also be used as a form of safe sex. You can give the massage to increase trust between lovers and increase their intimacy. In some massage therapies and sexual therapies it is used to help the woman to break sexual blockings and sexual trauma.
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The goal is not that the woman shall have an orgasm. If she has an orgasm that's a nice side effect. The goal is to give her pleasure and to massage her Yoni. That means that both the giver and the receiver can relax. None of them has to feel a requirement to perform. If the massage leads to orgasm, it can be longer, more intense and more satisfying than at other occasions.
It's good if the person giving the massage doesn't expect to have something in return. Just let the woman receive and enjoy the massage. Let her sink into herself afterwards. You can of course make love after the massage, but only if the woman takes the initiative.

Preparations

One way to prepare a Yoni massage is that the woman and the giver takes a bath together. It helps them both to feel more relaxed. Give the massage in a quiet and silent space. You can have candles lit and soft pillows in the room. Pee before the massage. It can be disturbing to interrupt the massage if either of you have to pee. And it can feel a bit unpleasant to receive Yoni massage if you need to pee.
Give time for the massage. It's important that nor the receiver nor the giver are stressed. Give the massage the time it requires.
It's important that you have good contact with each other before beginning to give and receive Yoni massage.
Hug each other, touch each other, look each other in the eyes for a long time - or do what you two knows creates a safe and relaxed atmosphere between you.

The procedure

Let the woman lay on her back, with pillows under her head so she is able to look down towards her Yoni and is able to look at the giver. Place a pillow under her hips. Part her legs and the knees should be slightly bent (pillows under her knees can help) and her Yoni shall be totally exposed to the massage. The giver sits in front of the legs of the woman, maybe on a pillow. This position gives total access to the Yoni and other parts of her body.

Before starting the massage, take some deep and slow breaths to increase the relaxation. It's good if the giver and woman breathe deep, slow and relaxed during the whole procedure. Remind the woman about her breathing is she stops or begins to breathe faster.

• Massage her legs, her thighs and her breasts gently and carefully. It helps her to relax and prepare you for the touch of her Yoni at the same time..

• Put some massage oil (preferably un perfumed and water based) of good quality on top of her Venus Mountain. Just use so much that it trickles over the major labia. Remember to cover the pillow under her bottom with a towel.

• Begin carefully to massage her Venus Mountain and her major labia. Use time to do this and don't stress. Relax and enjoy giving the massage. Pinch the major labia softly between the thumb and the middle finger, slide up and down the lips of the major labia. Do the same with her minor labia. Take your time.

The woman can massage her breasts or just relax and breathe deeply. It helps if you look into each others eyes as often as possible.
The receiver can tell you if the pressure, pace, or the depth shall increase or decrease. Talk as little as possible and focus on enjoying. Too much talking risk to affect the atmosphere and lessen the effect of the massage.

• Massage her clitoris carefully in circles clockwise and counter clockwise. Pinch her clitoris carefully with the index finger and the thumb. Do it as a massage, not to give her an orgasm. She can get very excited, but tell her to relax and go on breathing deep and calm.

• Put the middle finger of your right hand carefully into her Yoni (there is a reason why you should use your right hand and not the left. It has to do with polarities within tantra. ) Investigate and massage the inside of her Yoni very carefully with your finger. Take your time. Be soft; feel upwards, downwards and at the sides. Vary the depth, the speed and the pressure. Remember that it is a massage, and that you shall give a massage and give relaxation to her Yoni. With your palm turned upwards (the rests of your fingers is turned towards the towel) and your middle finger inside her Yoni, move your finger in a ”come here” - movement or a hook towards the palm of your hand.

You will reach a mushroom-like tissue under her pubis bone, behind her clitoris. That is the g-point, which in tantra is called the holy place. Your partner may feel that she need to pee, be careful otherwise it may hurt a little. Vary speed, pressure and movements. You can move your middle finger towards the sides, forward or backward or in circles. You can also insert your ring finger, but check with your partner if it's all right. Most women don't have a problem with that, and they will enjoy the increased stimulation from two fingers. Take your time and be very soft.

• You can use the right hand thumb to stimulate her clitoris. A possibility, if she wants to, is to put your little finger in her anus. Use her lubrication when you enter her anus and be very very careful. (Within tantra it is said that if you put your little finger in her anus, the ring finger and the middle finger in her Yoni and the thumb on her clitoris you are ”holding the mysteries of the Universe in your hand”.)

Left hand

What does your left hand do meanwhile? You can use it to touch her breast, her thighs, her belly or her clitoris.
If you touch her clitoris it's usually best to use the thumb in an up-and-down movement, while the rest of the hand is resting or massaging her Venus Mountain. The double stimulation of the right and the left hand can give her a lot of pleasure.
Do not use your left hand to touch yourself, which would distract your focus from the woman. Remember that this massage is for her to enjoy, and it's not only about pure physics, your intention is as important as the massage. Go on with the massage; try different speeds, pressures and movements. Go on breathing and look into each others eyes. Strong emotions can be awakened in her, she may start to cry. Go on breathing and be careful. Many women have been sexually molested and need to heal. To give the massage to your partner, with love and patience, can be of great value to her.

If she gets an orgasm, help her to go on breathing and go on with the massage if she wishes to. There can be more orgasms and each can be more intense. In tantra it's called ”to ride the wave”. Many women can learn to have multiple orgasms through Yoni massage and a patient partner.

Go on with the massage until she tells you to stop. The whole massage should take about one hour. Very slowly, softly and with respect let go of the touch. Permit her to just lie there and enjoy the repercussions of the massage. Embrace her and hold her too. When you learn to be a master of giving a Yoni massage your sexual life will be richly rewarded.